Vixen - Yep, I'm back to my normal snarky self, although I do believe that when he tells me I'm not a slave it's a process of reverse psychology. He's clever that way.
Masters_piece - Snort so... 'cos one is nosey and all that... does it have the same effect when total strangers on the net say it?? :D
Vixen - I ignore total strangers on the net lol. Mostly. But then you and I aren't total strangers anymore either are we?
Vixen - It's the little things that are getting me. We were supposed to go to this Halloween party with Kaya and Scott. I asked if he had any ideas as to what we should go as? His first suggestion was an incredible amount of work that he knew I would have no time to make. So I countered with one that was easy and would only require me to make a skirt. I said Teacher and School Girl. I figured he would go for it as he loves me to dress up as a school girl occasionally. The response I got just floored me.
"I'll take you to the fabric store and choose the fabric. It will be mid-thigh with 2 inch pleats." All taken aback by the direct tone I asked, rather sarcastically, if he had a color or pattern in mind for the fabric. "Red and black, a large plaid". I asked if I had any choice in this? "I said I would take you with didn't I?"
He's killing me. We tried the O/p thing, he's not consistent enough. He asks rather than directs. We discussed it and decided that that dynamic just doesn't fit us. I am not a slave, just ask him and he'll tell you.
Masters_piece - LOL have you actually read the blog... and you are still vying for the most unslavey slave award. Got that one soooo nailed you aren't even in second place.Honestly some people are just polite... round here an ask is an order... it just blends better :DAs for plaid it might be a kindness to point out that large checks will make his bum look big... just sayin
Vixen - But he doesn't enforce it....So it's like I still have a choice. But I feel terrible if I don't do what he asks. But there's no penalty or punishment if I don't do what he asks, other than the one I impose on myself.
Vixen - head-desk
Masters_piece - Which leads one to conclude...
A He has you right where he wants you
B It isn't quite what you want... in which case he has you right where he wants you
C Either way you are his whatever you might want to call it
B It isn't quite what you want... in which case he has you right where he wants you
C Either way you are his whatever you might want to call it
???
Vixen - kicks Masters_pieceMasters_piece - Well on that note one is going to bed...
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Isn't she inspirational?
Well, so I guess the reason the name "slave" is so huge to me is that it has certain rules that are associated with it. You wear a collar (I do), you are available for his sexual use whenever he feels like it (I am), you are at his beck and call (yeah, that too), he gets to do things to you that are fun for him but not necessarily for you (well, to be honest they're fun for me too), and last but not least, he makes the decisions (except for the checkbook, that's mine..wait a minute, he told me that's mine). And yet he says I'm not a slave.
Well if I'm not a slave, what the hell am I?
Free from the labels and all the endless definition debates that stem from them. Free to enjoy your life together unencumbered by the expectations of others. Free to just be.
ReplyDeleteNow is when you scamper off and thank him by the way :)
*chokes*
ReplyDeleteNot quite yet I think...
Oh, the labels. Darling, you'll fret yourself into an ulcer trying to find a label that fits everywhere, in everything.
ReplyDeleteBe a cunt(or whatever!). That's what I am. I don't fit perfectly into the other slots so he labelled me a cunt and shazam! I'm good to go. I use the other labels (property, slave, etc.) in company because they often best get my point across without having to explain the cunt/slave/label fiasco.
I adore piece. Don't you? She's awesome. ;-)
We can talk about labels if you like. Neither of us find them to be particularly useful. We can talk about consistency, if you like. Neither of us are particularly so; we adapt to the situation, challenge, or pleasure before us. We are human, our manners and personalities aren't carved in stone. We can talk about frustration, if you like. We both experience what *feels* like more than our share, but I doubt that it really is.
ReplyDeleteWhat I would like to talk about is the fact that we love one another, and because of that, we see the best and the worst in each other, and we need to find some space in which to reconcile those opposites.