Another rant...

BoringJen did it this time with this post.  As a switch I have the wonderful ability to see both sides of this argument.  If you have a limit, state it.  Make it clear and concise.  I have limits that are different with different people, as do we all.  With M, I have none.  I am allowed none that he can't, at the very least, touch.    With outside play partners, their list is a bit longer and MUCH more specific.  I honestly don't think that when I'm on the top side, it's really too much to ask that your limits be specific.  If you don't want me hitting below your knee, say NO HITTING BELOW THE KNEE.  If you don't want me hitting on your tattoo, Say, don't hit on or even near the tattoo, the damn thing isn't a target (one of mine).  If someone points out to me where a body part is, I'm going to assume that it means they don't want impact there, NOT that they don't want impact above or below it.  Yes that's an assumption on my part, but I think it's a fair one.  If I've played sexually with you in the past, and you want to be played with publicly, I'm going to play sexually with you in public unless you otherwise state that.  If you don't like oral, say so, and I'll love you all the more for it.  I fly better with a map than I do by the seat of my pants.  No it doesn't take the spontenaity out of things, and no it doesn't limit my creativity.  Promise.

Oh ffs...

Why is it when you start a new relationship that you are obviously the boss of, people won't accept it when you don't set up a bunch of stupid ass rules?  Not all doms are control freaks!  If Gremmie needed a bunch of rules and structure, we wouldn't be together, because honestly, who has the time?  We enjoy each other, yes I'm dominant to her but she's as much of a slave as I am...  Do I enjoy her brattiness?  You bet.  Do I enjoy putting her in her place?  You bet.  Do I like wonderful fun times like pinching her bruises under the blanket when the kids aren't looking?  Of course.  What I don't enjoy doing is curbing that wonderful sense of adventure of hers. What I refuse to do is take away her ability to think for herself.  What I absolutely adore about her is that she has a brain and isn't afraid to USE IT.  If I asked her to be monogomous, I WOULD HAVE TO BE.  And I'm way too much of a slut for that...