Thursday, February 23, 2012


Ever feel like a fraud when it comes to orientation?  I do, all the damn time.  I am now listed as queer even though I have no thoughts of ever sexually entertaining men.  I top one guy in particular all the time and am married to M, but that's about the limit of it.  I really just can't get anything else going for guys.  This morning is a perfect example.  I followed one of my friends who is bi to a picture expecting to find a lovely girl to look at and it was a man.  The picture really was well done, it was definitely an attractive example of man, but I admired that and the composition of the pic.  Honestly the only reason I remarked on it was so my not-so-queer friends had something nice to look at.  I know women have dreams of some big strong man taking hold of them, slamming them down on the bed and having their wicked way with them, and I did too, until I met M.  Anything that I needed met by a male he does, so I find myself turning more and more lesbian in my tastes.  Any idea how many poly lesbians there are out there?  Notsomany.  Especially ones like me, that don't do casual sex.  I want a relationship, not sex.  Well, yeah I want sex too, duh, but having a girlfriend is the goal.
I've mentioned this before but it bears repeating.  I've had a couple of more hopefuls but they've been added to the list of non-starters.  I haven't given up though, as a matter of fact I'm trying to put together some pithy, under 30 word, funny explanation on my fet profile so people don't see "married" and pass on by.

Any suggestions from my clever friends?


  1. LOL. OMG I totally get where you're coming from! I find myself in exactly the same boat.......don't know what to call myself but very well aware of what I'm looking for! Women can't see beyond the married tag for whatever reason. Too close to heteronormative for lesbians, too liberal with my 'love and desires' for the monogamous, too much baggage for the bisexual etc etc etc. I too haven't given up hope of finding my perfect gal either. I didn't appreciate finding love with someone was soooo damn difficult ha ha!!

    Good luck with the search!

    DY xx

  2. Not a damn thought, lady...M doesn't share His toys, even with other girls. Wah!!

    1. *pouts* but but but, you're better with words than I am :D Hell, ANYONE is better with words than I am.

  3. All the damn time for me as well! Straight doesn't quite cut it. Master says he thinks I'm probably bi because he gets to hear all my fantasies. I don't know. Unsure sounds wishy washy. Which I am. But I don't like to sound like it.

  4. Ps. It was a lot easier before I joined Fetlife and never had to check a little box. "Married" said it all.